It was Henry Ford that once said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t- you’re right.”. I know what you’re thinking, here’s another cheesy quote to get us going and get us motivated for the day. However, in the quote lies a lot of honesty about whether or not we as individuals are truly capable of achieving what we desire in life.
Have you ever noticed how some of the most successful athletes, business people, and individuals in the world always seem to have an edge that might not be easily noticed? No, it’s not a magic pill, they haven’t somehow managed to figure out how to create extra hours in their day, nor have they got some fix that the rest of the world isn’t clued in on. They have something that each and every single one of us could use a little more of in our lifes- self belief and resiliency.
I’ve seen so many individuals and companies try to manipulate people into believing that their service or product is the key to helping people achieve the success that they are after both in and out of the gym. “Join our 8 week fat shredding protocol”, “Perform these 3 movements to build that big booty that you have always desired”, “Follow these 3 hacks to get yourself a bigger stronger squat”, “take this magic pill to shred fat without changing your diet or training”, “if you follow this one plan you’re guaranteed to get results”, and the list goes on.
However, if we truly take a moment to examine what the reason is that we aren’t achieving our goals and keep coming up short we’ll begin to find that it’s for more than one particular reason. To move in the direction that is required for us to achieve our goals we need to take action. For each and every single individual the things that we have in our locus of control will be different, our genetics will be different, what we have going on between our ears will be different, and the actions that we will need to take will all be different. Yet at the root of it all we need to believe in our ability to accomplish whatever the goal is that we have set out in front of us.
Believe in yourself, because if you don’t nobody else ever will.
When the chips are down on the table and you’ve come face to face with whatever it is that preventing you from achieving your goal you have to believe in yourself. You have to believe that you’re smart enough to pass the test, that you are stronger than your competition, that you are capable of delivering that awesome presentation at work, that you have the determination to stick to your nutrition plan, that you can accomplish whatever it is that you’re trying to do. It might seem like a simple thing to do but so many of us are missing out on how our self-talk is impacting our self belief. If we look back at what our friend Henry Ford said about whether you think you can or you think you can’t accomplish a task, he was right. If you don’t think that you have it in you you won’t invoke the responses within you that are necessary to take the actions that are required to make that thing happen.
Now for the next part of the equation, self reliance.
“A bird sitting on a branch is never afraid of the branch breaking, because it’s trust is not on the branch but on it’s own wings.”-Unknown. Think about your process each and every day. Who or what do you rely on in order to go out there and take action or accomplish the things that you desire? What are your tendencies or habits that you have? Do you need someone to tell you when to go to bed at night? Do you rely on someone else to cook your meals for you? Do you need to be in front of people to perform your best? Do you need someone to shower you with positive affirmations or to provide you with negative feedback? Do you need someone there to give you that little pep talk before you step out on the competition floor or deliver that huge proposal at work?
While all of these things are great, when push comes to shove, you and I both know that you rely on your ability to not only act but to perform at a level that is required for you to achieve your goal. Nobody else except you can do it for you. Nobody else can want it for you as much as you need to want it for yourself and nobody else can take the actions that you need to take in order to make your dream a reality.
So how do we get better at believing and relying on ourselves? (Side note, I’m not a trained psychologist and I intend on staying in my own lane here. These are just a few trick and tips that I have seen work in others lives as well as in my life.)
- Take ownership for your life. Own the things that you can control- your effort, your attention to detail, your consistency, your motivation and discipline, etc.
- Take control of the big things like what you cook for dinner, how many times a week you have scheduled to go to the gym, your effort you put in at the gym, when you go to sleep at night, what you’re consuming for information, etc.
- Work on your mindset- practice confidence, positive self-talk, imagery and visualization, and a variety of other mental skills.
- Learn from failure- take it as an opportunity to grow and move forward.
- Learn who you need to be in order to have what you want to have- learn the habits, the characteristics, the skills and traits, and the requirements associated with the level of the success that you desire and get to work on them.
- Believe in yourself.
This isn’t an exhaustive list and each and every individual’s list of what they need to do will look different. Anyone can do the work that is required to accomplish the goal that they desire, but not everyone can walk out on the competition floor or into the board room in the office and know that they have done the work, that they fully believe in themselves and their ability to accomplish the task at hand, and that they don’t need to rely on anyone else to get the job done.
As a coach, we can help show you what you are capable of and give you the tools and help you develop the characteristics that you need in order to accomplish your task. Over time, if we’re trending in the right direction you’ll require less and less from us and learn how to demand more from yourself. That, in a way, is progress- the act of trending towards believing fully in yourself and relying on yourself to make the things that you want to happen actually happen.
So what are you doing to work on your self belief and take ownership of your life?
A. Back Squat: 5 x 4 @ 8 RPE @ 4,1,1,1
B. Good Morning : 4 x 6 @ 4,1,1,1
C. 4 Rounds for time:
I). 20m Dumbbell Walking Lunges
II). 10 Dumbbell Romanian Deadlifts
III). 10 Dumbbell Front Squats
IV). 10 Russian Swings (with dumbbells)
A1) Wall Supported Handstand Hold: Accumulate 2 minutes
A2) Chest to bar hold: Accumulate 2 minutes.
Note: Swap exercises each time you drop.
B1) Push Press: 4 x 5 @ 8 Rpe @ 1,1,X,1
B2) Pull-Up: 4 x 5 @ 8 Rpe @ 1,1,1,1
C) 10 min AMRAP
I. Dumbbell Floor Press- 8 reps
II. Dumbbell Renegade Row- 8/Side
III. Sit-ups- 8 Reps
A) Deadlift: 4 x 5 @ 7.5 Rpe @ 1,1,1,1
B1) Split Squat- 4 x 7/side @ 8 Rpe @ 3,2,1,1
B2) Side Plank- 4 x 30s/side
C) EMOM 10:
I) 8 Dumbbell Deadlifts
II) 8 Dumbbell Front Squats
III) 8 Dumbbell Push Press